Dear 16yr Old Me

Having two daughters people always seem to say ‘you’re in for fun when they’re teenagers’. Yes, I’d say it will be fun and hair raising too. But it made me think… What would I say to my 16 year old self now. And what would I say to my girls one day. So I wrote it down.

Dear 16 year old me,

I know days seem really tough and full of drama and trouble right now but rest assured in years to come you will look back on these days as the most free spirited ones to date. Despite parental restrictions and school rules, you have freedom that knows no bounds. You are at the start and free to shape your life as you want to.

Study hard. It seems trivial but it is the foundation of your future. When dad nags you about exams it is because he loves you and wants you to do your best. Not because he’s a buzz kill.

You are beautiful. Your body is perfect because it’s yours. Eat more. Enjoy it. In 10 years time, post two children, you will look in the mirror and you will marvel at your body’s strength. It’s lines won’t matter. That roll you get when you sit down will be insignificant to the life your body bore.

Forget the boys. The ones breaking your heart. They aren’t worth it for they are but boys. There is a man waiting in the wings, he is a king and he will treat you like his queen. Don’t doubt him. You deserve him.

Give your mum a break. She isn’t trying to ruin your life. She loves you. She loves you so much that every time you yell at her and tell her you hate her it’s like your hand has gone through her chest and ripped her heart out. You will be a mother one day. I know you don’t plan to but you will take to motherhood like it’s your life purpose. You will understand the pain and heartbreak of wearing your heart outside your body in the form of your children. You will see your own mother in a new light. She will become one of your best friends and mentor.

Dear 16 year old me, be kind. Be kind to yourself. Be kind to others. Don’t be afraid of your own strength. Don’t let people intimidate you into being less than you are. Be happy. Be funny. Make people laugh. Be everything you can be.

With Love,

28 yr old Me

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