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Capsule Wardrobe: My Girls Mix ‘n’ Match Picks for Autumn + GIVEAWAY

The internet tells me the definition of a Capsule Wardrobe is as follows;

‘….a capsule wardrobe is a collection of a few essential items of clothing that don’t go out of fashion, such as skirts, trousers, and coats, which can then be augmented with seasonal pieces.’

I am seeing talks and discussions about capsule wardrobes and minimizing our lives in general all over social media at the moment. There are groups dedicated to the movement of minimalism. They offer insight and advice about thinking more about what we add to our lives and wardrobes, about buying less, and planning our purchases rather than buying impulsively.

A Capsule Wardrobe to me as an adult is about clothes in colours that compliment my complexion, flatter my body shape, work in with the ‘on trend’ pieces I will buy and only wear for a season but most importantly pieces I love and will continue to reach for year after year.

For my girls a Capsule Wardrobe is more basic. Long sleeves and pants for the cooler months, shorts and tees for the warmer months, a special occasion dress, a warm jacket for winter and a light cardi for summer nights etc. I don’t mind if they are ‘on trend’ or ‘classic’ because by next year we need to start again in new sizes anyway but for that reason alone I need the options to be affordable. I just want my girls to put on their clothing and love them. I want them to put them on and be confident. I want them to wear them and be happy.

I am far past the stage of laying my children’s clothes out for them the night before, they probably wouldn’t wear my choices anyway! My girls are at an age where what they choose to wear is a part of their personality. A way they display themselves to the world and let their inner selves shine through.  I love how they are both so different yet so determined in their style so with my list of capsule basics, they refilled their Autumn wardrobe their way!

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Long Pants (Skinny Slash Jeans $19)-Tick!  Tran-seasonal Cardi ( Longline Knit Hoodie Cardigan $25)-Tick!

 

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I’m an absolute sucker for a little Matchy Matchy and a snuggly hoodie is a wardrobe must for my two. Miss wears Pull Over Hoodie Grey Marle (8-16) $15 and Skinny Slash Jeans. Trilly wears Pull Over Hoodie Light Grey (3-7) $12 and 7/8 All Over Print Leggings Light Pink $8

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Trilly is all about pink and unicorns so when she saw these it was love at first sight. Ticking my boxes for cozy pants (All Over Print Jogger Fit Trackpants Light Pink $12) and long sleeve (Long Sleeve Front Print Tee $5).

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Fun Long Sleeve Tees and Jeans are their go to for cooler months as well as mine! Trilly wears Long Sleeve Front Print Tee $5 and Boyfriend Patch Jeans $15. Miss wears Long Sleeve Front Print Tee $6 and Stretch Jeggings with Pocket $17.

2Hello Throwback to my childhood! Miss wears it with more spunk than I ever did though. Maybe she’ll start collecting iron on patches like I did? She definitely loves this get up! Jeans: Skinny Badge Jeans $25 Tee: Crew Neck Badge Tee $15.

 

And, I may have slipped in a little something for me because it ticked my points too.

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‘Mum Uniform’ on point! I’m a big blush pink fan and adore a comfy yet cute pair of flats. Jeans: Amco Women’s Plain Skinny Jeans $25 Knit: Garage Lace Up Back Jumper $25 Flats: Debut Enzoi Ballet Flats $25.

* ENTER TO WIN*: All parents can appreciate a little extra so simply let me know below what you’d put a $50 The Warehouse voucher towards and it could be all yours! 

This post has been sponsored by The Warehouse. All opinions are my own.

Our Affordable Fashion Finds For Girls This Summer

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If you have been following us for a while you will know that the struggle to dress my girls is real! I want affordable. I want age appropriate. I want my girls to feel good and explore their own sense of style but I want to be comfortable with their choices. Now Summer is just around the corner and with two kids that grow like a couple of weeds we decided to check out The Warehouse to see what they had on fashionable offer for the warmer months.

I can never argue with The Warehouse’s price and you can always guarantee you are going to get more bang for your buck. The Warehouse has always been my go to for the basics but more recently the girls have been spotting more and more things that they adore so for this trip I let them go for it, with the odd bit of guidance size wise and a bit of shoe direction from my Mum the clothing choices were all them.

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The old faithful denim and tee: My girls spend most of their summer in shorts and tee’s. It’s their go to. Comfortable and easy to run around in. Miss beelined it straight to the denim cutoffs and settled on the cute lace trimmed pair and the cool black acid wash pair, paired with some breezy tank tees she’s good to go.

Trilly decided on a pink rolled cuff pair and some cute black ones with embroidery detail. A twin pair of tank tees and an adorable tee will see her set for the basics.

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The floaty summer dress: Both my girls love a good dress but if it doesn’t spin it must float. These floaty chiffon dresses are perfect and the asymmetrical hemline is a favourite with my two.

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The mini fashionista: Miss has her own idea of style. She’s not a little girl anymore but she’s not quite a ‘big girl’ either, she’s in between. I love that she chose this striped midi dress and chose to team it with this super cute lace crop top which to me makes it a stylish and appropriate outfit for her age.

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The Sandal not Jandal: It has the slip on ease of a jandal but a bit more dressy. It’s easy to wear and perfectly on trend. A bargain at $10 these are a new go to and came in both the girls sizes.

A haul this size has Miss & Trilly’s summer wardrobe in a really good place and my wallet couldn’t be happier with the price. I don’t think it has to be expensive to dress our kids well we just have to be smart about it. All items pictured are from The Warehouse, where possible I have included the online links otherwise you can find them in stores today.

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This post has been sponsored by The Warehouse. All opinions are my own.

REVIEW – The Beauty Therapy Cabin


I was recently invited to experience the Tailor Holistic Facial at The Beauty Therapy Cabin run by Janice. This facial was kicked off with a relaxing back, neck and shoulder massage and before I get into too much detail on the experience I’d like to point out that I had never had a massage or facial before. To be honest, I was almost hesitant. I have this weird aversion to trusting a stranger to touch me so a massage has never enticed me at all. I’d also like to add, I am now a massage/facial convert.

 

Janice and The Beauty Therapy Cabin

Janice is an Internationally Qualified Beauty Therapist and has 14 years’ experience under her belt. While in her lush wee cabin of relaxation I also notice she has a certificate that proudly states her as the People’s choice Beauty Therapist of the year by Tempo Magazine. She’s worked in some of the top Day Spas in Sydney, Gold Coast and Hamilton.

‘ I find my job very rewarding, the fact I make people feel more beautiful, more relaxed, less stressed and enjoying their “time out” from busy lives. Sometimes it doesn’t even feel like work.’

6 years ago she took the plunge of self-employment and started off in the spare bedroom at home before her fiancé built her lush wee cabin, and The Beauty Therapy Cabin was born. Priding herself on her high standard of working and delivering on a luxurious experience, Janice has clients that travel as far as Auckland to visit her.

 

Tailor products as featured on their website

The Tailor Holistic Facial

Price $65
This 45 minute facial begins with a relaxing back, neck and shoulder massage with a beautiful blend of essential oils to give you a sense of calmness and well being. You will then drift into the facial treatment which includes cleansing, exfoliation, mask and scalp massage before finishing with serum and cream.

The facial focuses on

  • Reconditioning
  • Revitalising
  • Renewing
  • Detoxifying
  • Anti-aging
  • Hydration
  • Purification of the skin

Relaxation of the mind, body and soul

Daily stress often results in tension build-up in the muscles. Foreheads furrow and lines form between the brows and along the lip line. Gentle, routine facial massage can help relax these tight and drawn muscles, decreasing the lines that they form.

Massaging the face stimulates the lymphatic vessels and facilitates toxin elimination from the facial area. The lymphatic system plays a key role in health. Lymph is a clear fluid that removes toxins from the body. It’s filtered through the lymph nodes and moves into the bloodstream, where toxins can be eliminated. Muscle movement is needed to push lymph fluid through the body. A lack of movement can result in a sluggish lymphatic system and a buildup of toxins. Many lymph nodes are scattered throughout the facial area, especially along the edge of chin and jawline. Massage also decreases anxiety and can improve a negative mood and reduce stress.

 

The Beauty Therapy Cabin

My Experience

My first impression of Janice is that she was kind, welcoming and accommodating. It is obvious that she takes pride in making people feel comfortable and despite my massage inexperience and minor hesitance she was quick to put me at ease. Her cabin is beautiful. It is cosy and inviting. It has a sense of calmness and once inside the outside world slipped peacefully away. I took time out. I turned my phone off. It was all about me and guess what! It was amazing and despite my lack of presence in the outside world nothing catastrophic happened.

The starting massage was just what I needed to relax and clear my mind of thoughts, so good at one point I thought I was going to fall asleep. Lucky for me it was time to turn over for the facial part so I saved myself the embarrassment of snoring. The facial itself had me wondering why I’d never done it before, I will never be able to do my face justice by myself again. As someone with extremely dry and sensitive skin I was pleased to find the products used soothing and did not experience any redness or adverse effects something unusual for me. A bonus is that Janice sells the Tailor products right there in the Cabin so taking it home with you to continue using is an easy option.
I may not have actually looked 10 years younger at the end but I sure felt it. A lot can be said about allowing yourself the time to be completely calm and relaxed. Would I recommend this experience to someone? YES! Would I recommend Janice and The Beauty Therapy Cabin to people? YES! Would I drive the 40 minutes back there to have this experience again? YES!

 

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About Tailor Products

Tailor has Three Founding Principals as follows;

  • Ingredients: Ingredient quality will be held as our top priority. Tailor Skincare formulas will be made with natural ingredients for healthy looking skin. Ingredients will be sourced locally where possible and from suppliers with fair working conditions when sourced further afield. Tailor Skincare will ensure every single batch is made at a high quality manufacturing standard.
  • Earth: Tailor will strive to make environmentally responsible business decisions. Packaging materials will be recycled, recyclable or reusable. All online orders will be sent out in recycled cardboard packages and boxes. Ingredients will be sourced from local suppliers where possible.
  • Animals: No animals will be harmed in the making of Tailor Skincare products. Tailor products will only be tested on humans. Tailor will only use vegan ingredients, with the exception of locally sourced bees wax.

The Tailor Products used in the facial includes the Oil Cleanse, Dry Cleanse, Masque, Mist, Serum, Moisture or Hydration.

More information on the products can be found of the Tailor website.

Contact Details:

The Beauty Therapy Cabin can be found on Facebook, Instagram and Janice’s Website.

 

Mel x

26 Things I am Learning About My Tween

 

I mentioned recently over on my Facebook page that I am a mid-years mama, a Tween mama if you will. You can find a wealth of knowledge and blogs full of advice on Newborns, Babies, Toddlers and Teens however I’m noticing a serious lack of talking on the Tween phase. It’s almost like we jump from Pre-schoolers to Teens and forget we have to get through the murky middle waters before the teen stage.

 

With all that in mind and a great deal of thinking on my behalf I thought I’d write a little bit on the things I am learning from my Miss 8 and the crap people forgot to warn me about. I’m hoping it will resonate with some fellow mamas who are at the same stage as me and even if you aren’t then look forward to it or read it and think back on when this was you.

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26  Things I’m learning about my Tween

  1. I am still her favourite person. Until I’m not but I know in an hour or so I will be again. Its ok, I get it. I remember feeling the same with my own mum.
  2. She hates most the clothes I buy for her. Mainly because I chose them. On shopping trips I keep my mouth shut and pray she chooses wisely. It’s still ok though because I will not buy what I don’t think is appropriate.
  3. She likes to spend my money and she neeeeeeeds everything. It’s not true.
  4. She is aware her body is changing and it is confronting and confusing for her. She isn’t sure why some clothes I used to let her wear I now tell her are inappropriate. It’s tough trying to explain.
  5. She looks older than she acts. I still let her be a child. It is unfair for people to expect such grown up things from her.
  6. She is a tiny hurricane of turbulent emotions. Pre-puberty mood swings are real and they are taking over her body and she has no idea what the heck is wrong.
  7. She still needs cuddles. She acts like she doesn’t but deep down she stills craves them. So when she scraps her knee or stubs her toe it is still easily fixed with a big bear hug.
  8. Unless we are in public. In public I tread carefully. Some days she is unreadable. Some mornings a kiss goodbye is fine but other days I dare not touch her. I am learning it depends on our audience.
  9. I can’t fight her battles for her. As much as I want to march up to that bully and sort them out with stern words and evil glares. I can’t. I have to trust her to do this for herself. I have to trust that I have taught her to cope with these situations. I know she wants me to rescue her but I also know she would be mortified if I did. It’s tough.
  10. I can’t choose her friends for her. She has her own ideas and the best thing I can do is get to know them. They are her posse and their influence on her is inevitable, I must know who these girls are.
  11. She uses my shampoo and body washes in the shower. She swears she doesn’t touch them but she smells just like me.
  12. She wants to wear my make up. Not smeared on lipstick like her younger sister but properly applied.
  13. She is still ok when I say no.
  14. She is starting to doubt herself. Gone is the fearless I can do anything attitude and the worry and self-doubt is coming in its place. It is my job to teach her she was right before. She can do anything.
  15. She is starting to need privacy. She changes in the bedroom with the door shut and is starting to dread the school swimming changing rooms.
  16. She can slam her bedroom door with the force of a strong man.
  17. But she still can’t shut the pantry door.
  18. She is not me. She is herself. I must let her be her.
  19. People at school are telling her that Santa, The Easter Bunny and the Tooth fairy aren’t real and she is looking at me for answers. Of course, they’re real. I will cling to this magic of childhood for as long as I can.
  20. She makes me cry, laugh, feel hopeless and hopeful all in one day. I want to save her and praise her, hug her, kiss her and scold her all at once.
  21. With every new emotion or mood swing I pray my mother is wrong and the upcoming teen years will not be pay back for how I behaved during my own.
  22. She has a great sense of humour. She is funny, and smart, and witty. She reassures me I am not.
  23. She has discovered sarcasm. Its crap and it’s often paired with eye rolling.
  24. She is still fragile. She may deliver the comebacks but she cannot handle them.
  25. As much as I want to be her BFF forever I am her Mum first. She is learning this and I am learning how hard it can be to step back from the friend status and be a tough Mama. Some days she tells me she hates me and I have to remind myself that if she didn’t hate me I wouldn’t be doing my job right.
  26. She still needs her mum. No matter how old she gets, no matter how determined and independent she is, she will still need me and this reassurance will get me through this.

 

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This stage is just as rewarding and tedious as any stage of parenting but that’s parenting in a nutshell really. There are good days and bad days but at the end of the day it’s a journey most of us wouldn’t give up for the world. It is a gift and a rollercoaster of a ride.

Mel x

44 Things I Want My Daughters To Know

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There are so many things I want to teach my girls that my mind threatens to explode. Half of it they are far too young to even understand yet but the life lessons I want them to learn are always front of mind for me. Some are simple wee tokens of advice that have served me well, others are bigger lessons that I need them to understand. I know I can’t save them broken hearts or hard lessons but when the time is right I will pass on my pearls of wisdom.

Things I want to teach my daughters

  1. Always make eye contact when speaking with someone. It is respectful and good manners.
  2. Live to eat. Food is delicious and there is so much to enjoy and discover. Don’t eat just to live.
  3. Never judge people. You don’t know their story and you haven’t walked in their shoes.
  4. Learn to say NO. You don’t need any reason except that you want to say no.
  5. Read books. Lots of books.
  6. Don’t take life or yourself too seriously.
  7. Tattoos are permanent. Think it through, trust me.
  8. Don’t settle in a relationship. You deserve a prince who captures your heart and protects it as if it were made of glass. Wait for that man.
  9. No matter how old or young you are, if you are drunk, ring me. Do not drive. Do not get in some ones car. I will not be mad at you and I will get out of bed for you.
  10. Don’t sleep around. Just don’t.
  11. It’s not the quantity that matters when it comes friends. It’s the quality.
  12. Don’t be afraid to do you. Be proud of who you are and be you with confidence.
  13. A naked face can be liberating. Don’t be afraid to show it.
  14. Always have wine in your fridge. For when I visit.
  15. Buy the shoes, the handbag, the perfume – you deserve them.
  16. Be a good listener. Really hear people when they talk to you.
  17. People always remember how you make them feel. Make them smile.
  18. No one is any better than you, and you are no better than anyone else.
  19. We are all in this together, be kind.
  20. Take responsibility for your mistakes. Apologise when you should.
  21. Don’t be afraid to fail. Take a deep breath and try.
  22. You can be and do anything you want to.
  23. You can also do absolutely nothing all day except eat chocolate and watch tv. That’s ok too but only every now and again.
  24. If you’re not married to him, use protection. Safety first.
  25. Just because it zips, doesn’t mean it fits.
  26. Wine/beer and pizza is a perfectly acceptable meal.
  27. Tights are not pants and you are better than track pants. Unless it’s Lazy Sunday and then anything goes.
  28. I don’t care if you choose to love women or men. You are still you and dad and I will always love you.
  29. If they make you cry, they aren’t worth your tears.
  30. Have the courage and strength to walk away. Sometimes things aren’t right for us and we must accept this.
  31. Childbirth is painful. Few things are comparable. Except bikini waxing, that’s kinda the same.
  32. Always have something you do just for you.
  33. Your youth will fade, so may your looks but your mind is forever. Keep it sharp.
  34. Never lose your sense of humour.
  35. If you have to, try the weed but stay away from the hard stuff.
  36. See the world. Go on adventures.
  37. Stay at school. Go to university. Education is your weapon.
  38. Never go to bed angry.
  39. We need the cloudy days to appreciate the sunshine.
  40. When nothing seems to be going right, turn the music up loud and dance that shit out.
  41. I am always on your side. I’ve got your back.
  42. Even if I am not here, I am always with you.
  43. Everything will be ok in the end.
  44. Something as simple as your breath, your smile, your laugh – completes me. To me you are everything.

Mel x

I Am Not Super And That’s Ok

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As a female from the moment we come into this world we are told we can be and do anything. That we must fight for our equality in this world and we must assert ourselves as strong, competent, multi-tasking and able females. That we are the Queen of our own jungle, a lioness and the world must hear us roar.

Then some of us become mothers and we feel the need to up our womanly super powers. To juggle motherhood along with every other thing we could want to achieve in our lives. To chase the next dream, cross the finish line of the race and to tick the goals off our life check list. There are affirmations all over social media and we share inspiring quotes between us. It is a firm message that we can and must conquer the world and we can do it all with a baby on our tit and another on our hip.

I am guilty of overloading. I am guilty of not being strong enough to say no. I am guilty of trooping on and not asking for help despite feeling crushed by the weight of my commitments. I worry that admitting I am not coping will open me up to be viewed as weak. That people will realise I am not made of stone, I am not super, I am not juggling motherhood and life with ease. I read one of those glorious meme’s the other day that said ‘We are all losing our shit, some of us are just better at hiding it than others’ and I thought A-FREAKEN-MEN!

I think most women whether they are mothers or not can relate to the pressure to succeed. The pressure to prove ourselves and to have our shit under control but I want to chuck it out there that it is ok and perfectly normal to fail at ‘adulting’ every now and again, and to take refuge in a pillow fort. Not only is it normal but it is deliciously therapeutic. Take a long bath with those fancy ass Lush bath bombs, eat the whole king size block of chocolate, drink all the wine and throw yourself a big old pity party. Then get back to it.

Learn your limits. Assert yourself and your ability to say no. Don’t feel ashamed of saying no. It’s a powerful word and you need no excuses. Once you have mastered the art of using the big N-O life tends to take a turn. I’ll be honest, it’s hard as hell at first to just say no without following it with rambling justifications but the truth is you don’t need to do that. So repeat after me – no, No, NO! Let’s all be a little self-indulgent now and again and not feel a damn bit guilty about it.

While I will continue to raise my own little females with the positive affirmations of being able to conquer the world, I will also teach them the importance of putting themselves first. I will carefully guide them through the need to be selfish every now and again and that there is no weakness in asking for help. It takes great strength to admit so. They are indeed beautiful lionesses but they don’t need to be alone in their jungle. Support networks are crucial and if there is one kingdom I want them to build, it is that one.

Last week almost broke me and if admitting this helps someone else realise they need to call a time out and look after themselves then that hideous selfie was worth it. Call on your support systems, admit you need them and make sure they bring the wine!

 

Mel x

 

The Third Child Decision

My Girls and I
My Girls and I

Trilly, my youngest, starts school in September and I keep being reminded that I’ll ‘be free’ again. I feel like I should be excited at this prospect. People keep saying I won’t know myself and how great it will be. Yet I’m feeling dread and anxiety.

I’ve gone backwards and forwards on a third baby for years. Hubby has always been a firm no and so this has made the decision easy for me. However, he has recently done a turn around and agreed to one. Now, I’m not sure.

I’m not sure if I’m doing it to fill a void I feel coming or because I really want that third. I’m not sure if I’m prepared to go back to sleepless nights and nappies. I love our current family dynamic and I know it’ll all change and I worry I won’t be happy. I worry and feel I’m being selfish by not rejoicing at the chance to welcome a third child.

Miss and Tilly with their cousins, Aja and Skyla
Miss and Tilly with their cousins, Aja and Skyla

I held my new Niece recently and my ovaries didn’t ache and my uterus didn’t explode. My heart didn’t long for a baby but I cry when I see my nephews. So I’m going to admit right now. I want a son. I love my two daughters, I’d never replace them, I’d never change them but I long for a son.

It makes you feel like a first class w**ker when people are struggling to just have a child and you are torn up inside at the risk of another with the same genitalia. I realise you can’t choose. You get what you’re given. People are always reminding me of this and I’m not naïve enough to not understand it but I want a son and I’m unsure I’m willing to change our family dynamic for a third daughter.

Before you judge me. Before you make assumptions about me as a mother. Of course I’d love a third child no matter what and I know once I held them the love would be instant. I am not going to lie however and say I wouldn’t be disappointed. In fact I’d almost be temporarily heartbroken. I know this and I am aware of this so I must be honest about it. I would accept a third daughter and feel blessed for any child at all but I will also deal with a feeling of loss. Loss for a son that will never be mine.

I write this because I’m sure I’m not alone. I’m sure mothers before me have felt this way. I’m sure they have felt horrid about it and even hated the fact they thought and felt these things. Motherhood is life changing. It is a life long commitment. We are allowed to have hard thoughts and reservations about it. It is nice to know we are not alone.

My two little loves
My two little loves

Mel x

Please Mind Your Own Mummy Business

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A Girls Day Out brings the excitement

‘Be careful with your words. Once they are said, they can only be forgiven, not forgotten.’

It’s the last day of school holidays and we have a bit of a tradition in our house where the girls and I have a girls day out together. So today we went to the Mall for lunch, a bit of shopping and a movie. It’s all very exciting for my two little divas.

Our day was great fun. The movie was thoroughly enjoyed. Lunch of sushi and Yoghurt Story for dessert received a big thumbs up. There was only a couple things wrong with our perfect day and they were because of other people. Fellow mamas that to be honest, I always expect more of.

When we got organised this morning, the girls dressed themselves. They do a good job of it and as long as it’s weather appropriate I generally just go with the flow on their choices. While I was applying a little make up in the bathroom Trilly had decided to apply her own red lippie. I chose my battles wisely and to be honest the fight to take the lippie off would not have been worth it and so we left with her gorgeous ruby lips on show.

We were waiting in line for our movie tickets when I overheard the lady with two gorgeous children behind me say to her friend ‘hardly an age appropriate outfit’. I only assume it was directed at us because we were the only other people waiting in the queue and she was right behind us. I brushed it off. Maybe she wasn’t speaking about one of my girls anyway and the girls didn’t hear so no real harm done.

Eating our sushi in the food court was a different story. A charming lady deemed it appropriate to let me know that lipstick on MY 4 year old was disgusting and inappropriate. I normally have words, many even but I was speechless. I was speechless for many reasons, the first being it’s none of her business. Again, I am assuming this woman is a fellow Mother (because she had children with her) and as a mother she should know better. Trilly heard her words and what riles me the most is that she had no right to make my 4 year old feel the way her words did. Trilly insisted I take her to wash off the lippie because ‘she is disgusting’ with it on. Trilly cried, her shoulders slumped, her confidence visibly knocked.

The offensive red lips
The offensive red lips

While I am a firm believer that we are entitled to our own opinions, there is our opinions and there is cruelty. I’d like to know what this women was hoping to achieve. Would she have been upset had the roles been reversed and she then had to console her young daughter? Did she consider the windfall of her actions and did her words provide any enrichment in the lives of either party? As a mother does she think 4 is too young to have to try explain the harshness of the world and some of its people? Did she even consider my 4 year old daughter sitting there or was she just so hell bent on letting me know her opinion of my mothering skills?

To the woman in the food court I’d like to say to you, please think before you open your mouth. The words that come from it have the ability to build someone up or tear them down, especially a child. Perhaps worry more about your own life instead of inflicting your opinion on those that have not asked for it. I will mother my way and you can mother your way. I will not judge you and I’d hope you would not judge me because at the end of the day we are on the same side. Just doing our best to raise the best little humans we can.

Mel x

Dear 16yr Old Me

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Having two daughters people always seem to say ‘you’re in for fun when they’re teenagers’. Yes, I’d say it will be fun and hair raising too. But it made me think… What would I say to my 16 year old self now. And what would I say to my girls one day. So I wrote it down.

Dear 16 year old me,

I know days seem really tough and full of drama and trouble right now but rest assured in years to come you will look back on these days as the most free spirited ones to date. Despite parental restrictions and school rules, you have freedom that knows no bounds. You are at the start and free to shape your life as you want to.

Study hard. It seems trivial but it is the foundation of your future. When dad nags you about exams it is because he loves you and wants you to do your best. Not because he’s a buzz kill.

You are beautiful. Your body is perfect because it’s yours. Eat more. Enjoy it. In 10 years time, post two children, you will look in the mirror and you will marvel at your body’s strength. It’s lines won’t matter. That roll you get when you sit down will be insignificant to the life your body bore.

Forget the boys. The ones breaking your heart. They aren’t worth it for they are but boys. There is a man waiting in the wings, he is a king and he will treat you like his queen. Don’t doubt him. You deserve him.

Give your mum a break. She isn’t trying to ruin your life. She loves you. She loves you so much that every time you yell at her and tell her you hate her it’s like your hand has gone through her chest and ripped her heart out. You will be a mother one day. I know you don’t plan to but you will take to motherhood like it’s your life purpose. You will understand the pain and heartbreak of wearing your heart outside your body in the form of your children. You will see your own mother in a new light. She will become one of your best friends and mentor.

Dear 16 year old me, be kind. Be kind to yourself. Be kind to others. Don’t be afraid of your own strength. Don’t let people intimidate you into being less than you are. Be happy. Be funny. Make people laugh. Be everything you can be.

With Love,

28 yr old Me